Anger Management The term "anger management" implies that a person is angry by nature and that anger is an emotion that needs "managing," rather than an emotion to be rid of.
Getting rid of your anger is what I do with hypnotherapy — when your anger is gone there is nothing to manage, so you can use the time previously expended on anger for productive, positive activities.
I have observed that most angry people (and people who feel a need to be critical of others) do not feel very good about themselves. They are also self-critical, feel helpless and feel that they don't deserve to enjoy peace of mind, high self-esteem, and the admiration of other people.
Most anger is aimed at people over whom the angry person has little or no control. But anger doesn't make a situation better, nor does it effectively change the person at whom the anger is directed — if anything it makes things worse!
Anger does not engender respect or esteem — it reduces it! Being angry may in the short run cause others to behave differently but in the long run it breeds resentment, retaliation and rebellion. Since anger doesn't fix anything, or enhance relationships, why not put that time and energy into building the respect, harmony and peace of mind that come from being emotionally independent from what other people do and say?
Occasionally things and happenstances create anger — the cat leaves a mess on the carpet so the cat gets kicked, the tire goes flat so the car gets kicked — but most often it is people who make people angry. One day a client said, "If only I could remove people from the equation [of my life], finding a solution to my anger problem would be easy and I'd be fine." Of course, that's impractical, but it does make a valid point: What other people do and say is what creates the anger — isn't that people are, by nature, angry.
The core of the anger problem is simple: Most angry people feel that they are being criticized (or not getting the respect they think they deserve) when people do or say things that are in conflict with what they think people should be doing or saying. Being angry does not spawn respect or esteem; in fact, it diminishes them.
My hypnotherapy approach to anger management removes the feelings of anger and helps you enter into a peaceful state of being in which you experience an emotional independence that insulates you against the negative behavior of other people — a peaceful state in which you are free to make rational decisions about how you respond to people, rather than just reacting with anger.
If you have any questions, or want to make an appointment, contact me by phone (480-966-8571) or email me by clicking on Hypnotherapist@lbrady.com. I will be happy to answer all of your questions.